Monday, April 29, 2013

Boys Basic Guide to Make-up

I love make-up. I LOVE IT. But I love it more on men. Yes you heard me. I love it. Everyone could benefit from a little touch up. To cover a blemish, dark circles, scars, or give the skin a healthy glow. Certain situations warrant your best look like a job interview, a date or a special event. But I have found that some men don't know where to begin when it comes to make-up.

Now if you aren't comfortable with your sexuality or sexual identity you are going to have trouble with this. The idea that men aren't supposed to wear make-up is a contemporary idea that pervaded in the 20th century, because throughout history men have worn make-up

A rendering of King Tutakhamun wearing his beloved guyliner.

From the dawn of time men have mixed pigments together to make designs and markings on their faces to assert their place in society, we know this because of aboriginal and tribal African traditions that continue to this day. Egyptian royalty lined their eyes with kohl, the Greeks painted their nails and wore blush, 17th century males wore powder to make their skin pale, it wasn't until after the reign of Victoria I that men wearing make-up fell out of fashion after thousands of years of use. The Victorians deemed the use of make-up as vulgar and vain, and a sign of homosexuality since only women were allowed to wear minimal amounts of make-up in a society growing more controlled by the church. Since then make-up has been deemed something for women, and women that are vain and insecure, instead of the beautiful adornments that humans have been using to express themselves. 
 Okay hopefully you understand now that the shame men feel about wearing make-up is completely tied to a conservative tyrannically oppressive gender suppressing religious structure and has nothing to do with how much of a man you are. You just wanna look good! And you should look good! No one has the right to tell you that you shouldn't look good and you shouldn't feel good about the way you look, this isn't Saudi Arabia!

Okay lets start with the basics: What you will need.
  • Cleanser - a good face wash, with exfoliation because men tend to be hard on their skin and scrubbing off that dead skin will help make your skin easier to shave. 

  • Moisturizer - with SPF 15 or above, to help make you skin soft and healthy, prevents wrinkles and age spots.

  • Concealer - this is a cream that you use to cover small spots and marks. Find one that is a shade or two lighter than your skin, test on your chin not on your hand because hands tend to be much darker than faces. 

  • Foundation - this comes in cream (for more coverage), liquid (for medium, buildable coverage) or powder (for lighter coverage). You can decide what your preference is, do you want total face coverage or a more natural coverage that will allow flaws to come through?

  • Powder - find a powder that is either a neutral shade or the same tone as your skin, this is to set your make-up and prevent it from coming off on your clothes and hands. 

  • Brushes/Q-tips/Sponges - you could use a double ended concealer foundation brush or q-tips to apply the concealer and sponges to apply the foundation. 

  • Lip moisturizer - find a chapstick or balm that soothes your lips and prevents chapping.

  • Shave gel - you need something that lubricates your skin and will prevent burns and irritation.

 Here are the steps to applying your coverage.
  1. Go through with your morning ritual, brush your teeth, shave, put in your contacts. 
  2. Wash your face thoroughly with your cleanser, don't use water that is too hot. Cooler water closes your pores and will prevent your skin from getting oily and breaking out. 
  3. Apply moisturizer in an upward motion starting from the neck and moving up to the temples. Allow to settle on your skin. 
  4. With your brush take just a dab and place it on the mark or blemish and just blot it, don't rub it in. Then blend to the outside, blending it with your skin. If it doesn't blend, take a tissue and dab it to get some of the excess off and try again. Blend with the brush using circular motions, until it's completely covered and melted into the skin. 
  5. Apply the foundation to your face by taking your sponge and  putting spots all over your face, on your forehead, cheeks, nose and chin then either with your sponge or clean hands smooth it all over your face, until it is blended. 
  6. Taking a brush, dip it into the powder, tap off the excess and, in a circular motion, powder your entire face or just the places you've covered. 
  7. Apply a lip moisturizer of your choice. 

Clear mascara - if you have thin, flat eyelashes that blend into your face but you don't want the 80's hair band look that mascara gives you a lifting, separating and defining look that makes you feature more noticeable. Just pull the brush out of the tube and give your lashes a few swipes from root to tip, allowing them to dry a little between applications. 
Tweezers - to clean up those brows and stray nose hairs. Clean up in between your brows and above your natural brow line (but not from below since that gives an unnatural arch), you could also use an electric trimmer to cut down the hairs, get in your nose and the back of your neck. 
Bronzer - is a type of lotion that makes your skin look like you just came back from Caribbean vacation and gives definition and makes you look more healthy. You should know if your skin is pale and could use a bit of color, unless you are going for the undead, vampire look that I usually go for. Mix this in with your moisturizer for a naturally blended look. 

Here is a video on how to apply these tips from make-up artists Pixiwoo: 

Saturday, April 27, 2013

My Latest Obsession: Marina and the Diamonds

It must have been last year that I first heard the song "Primadonna Girl" by Marina and the Diamonds. I instantly fell in love with the lyrics and the electro pop sound of the song, but the girl singing the song, well that was something else. Marina Diamandis, is the singer behind the title Marina and the Diamonds, so really, there are no 'the Diamonds', just her. In 2005, she created that name for herself and when describing the origin of the title she says, "I never envisaged a character, pop project, band or solo artist. I saw a simple group made up of many people who had the same hearts. A space for people with similar ideals who could not fit in to life's pre-made mould. I was terribly awkward for a long time! I really craved to be part of one thing because I never felt too connected to anybody and now I feel I have that all around me."
A Welsh singer popular in the UK since 2010, with her album "The Crown Jewels", her debut single being "Mowgli's Road" released in 2009. Since then she has been signed in the United States, gone on both a UK tour and an American tour and released a new albulm titled "Electra Heart". She's poised to make herself big in America and I'm going to her show here in town on May 28th. I'm so excited.
Known for her unique visual presentation in her music videos, she has released a series of music videos called "The Archetypes." Each one representing a different part of "Electra Heart", the alter ego of Marina, she says, "Electra Heart is the antithesis of everything that I stand for. And the point of introducing her and building a whole concept around her is that she stands for the corrupt side of American ideology, and basically that's the corruption of yourself. My worst fear—that's anyone's worst fear—is losing myself and becoming a vacuous person. And that happens a lot when you're very ambitious."








PART 8: E.V.O.L.

Thursday, April 25, 2013

When you hate where you live

I've been thinking of writing this since I opened this blog. I weighed if it was appropriate or just the rants of a bitter girl. But in light of recent personal experiences, I had to write about it.
I hate where I live.
I hate the people, the way they dress, how the city looks, the public transportation system, the sports teams, the mentality, the attitudes, the resistance to change, the lack of opportunity, the lack of things to do, the lack of diversity, good food but most of all the hideous men.
Over the course of my life I have lived in many different places, including overseas. I've seen so many different cultures, people, dress, attitudes, languages, and adapted to them with ease, but I've never struggled so much as living here. I have only been here for 3 years and yet I feel like it's been alot longer. I never felt accepted or welcomed, I was greeted with hostility, skepticism  negativity, and mockery. This was not my town and despite how excited I was to move back, the feeling had quickly fleeted. I realized this town was very closed off to outsiders, especially different outsiders.
But I refuse to change. I refuse to dress differently, act differently or enjoy different things and I refused to bend to the will of many for the comfort of "fitting in".
Whether  you live in a town too big or too small, too narrow, too rural, too fast, or whatever here are some hints for dealing with living in a town you hate.

  • Escape whenever you can - leave town, get out, drive, take a bus, go somewhere else. It's easy to feel as though your shitty little town is it, and there is nothing better, but there is. For me, I take the Megabus to New York City and take a breather. Remind yourself there is something out there, there are more people, there are fun things and your town is not the end of the world. 
  • Connect with outside people - find people on the internet that you can connect to. People who live interesting lives or who live in the city you want to live in. You don't want to be grounded. grounded it keeping you rooted to something you don't want. You need to be up in the air, you need to free yourself from the binds of your crap town. 
  • Try to find something that you enjoy - this can be hard. I know of many small towns where the only thing to do is hang out at the local Walmart or diner, but find a park or a store. Find a quiet place where you can write or create by yourself, think and have private time. There isn't much where I live but I enjoy going to the museum. I can be alone and even though most of the art is not authentic, but replicas, I enjoy being around art, I can escape. 
  • Start a blog! - that's what I did! I wrote a blog to help me deal with the everyday problems of my life. Dealing with depression, loneliness  and creative out bursts that had no where to be placed. If you are finding it hard to deal with your life and where you are, write about it in a blog, or start a Tumblr and put up pictures of all the places you'd like to live. 
  • Move - okay, I know that's easier said than done but listen. You don't have to stay there. You don't. Thousands of years ago your ancestors moved across continents to get where they are, on foot. You can catch a plane to a new place. You can. It's tough but doable. Research where you want to move to, the job market, places to live, and rent prices. Save your money, this is necessary. The amount you need to save is up is dependent on where you are moving to. Once you get there, settle in, find a job, get to know the neighborhood and join some social groups. You should view this as a way to start living the life you want. 
I don't believe in settling  I don't believe in living a less than life and compromising your wants. Life is for living and you should take what you want out of it. Make NO apology about what you want in life, because it's what your heart demands. If you are being called elsewhere and you are miserable where you live, don't ignore that. You are being pulled to bigger, better things. The universe is calling you to your destiny. GO! 

Tuesday, April 23, 2013

The Women of Sci-fi

Recently a lot of new sci-fi movies have been coming out, Oblivion starring Tom Cruise, Star Trek: Into Darkness starring Chris Pine, After Earth starring Will Smith, Man of Steel starring Henry Cavill, World War Z starring Brad Pitt, all huge soon to be blockbusters but what else do they have in common? All led by dudes. It's understood in the industry that men are the main target for science fiction movies but are they? Women have proven time and time again that they want more than the sappy, saccharine predictability of a romantic comedy. We are constantly glossed over for the brawny, ultra man who punches first and punches later, but there are amazing female characters in science fiction. Some are all brain, some more tough, others sexy, but they represent the varied view of women and the credibility of being a kick ass woman in a frightening, often foreign, threatening world.

  • Dana Scully - partner of Fox Mulder in the hit TV show The X-Files, Scully was the hard to impress FBI agent assigned to keep Mulder in check. And in check she kept him, for nine seasons. Scully was the skeptical one with the gun and despite running into aliens, shapeshifters, mythical beasts and all kinds of other fuckery she always kept her head. Played by Gillian Anderson, she was panned for the role because they wanted a more glamorous "bombshell" for the role but Anderson proved them wrong. She was the glue that held Mulder together, often saving him from danger, and through her analysis skills, navigating the audience through the perils of the X-Files. 

  • Uhura - no matter when you started watching Star Trek, whether the 1966 or the 2009 version, you recognize the beautiful and talented character of  Lieutenant Nyota Uhura. One of the first black characters not depicted on television in a role of subservience. The first black character to be depicted on television in a science fiction show. The first black female character to have a scripted interracial kiss on television. She was cited as a role model for Whoopi Goldberg, Dr. Martin Luther King and Mae Jemison, the first black woman to fly in space. Uhura's role as a communications officer was not just important to the crew of the Enterprise but to the world at large. 

  • Barbarella - set in the future where there is no war or weapons, Barbarella is an agent sent to find a mad scientist who has created some crazy ass non specific weapon. This movie is a trippy ass, crazy ass 70's explosion of nonsensical crazy that you'd have to be crazy to like. I love this movie. First of all her costumes are giving it to the gods, second she beats the bad guy by OUT ORGASMING HIS DEATH MACHINE, third she fucks an angel. I rest my case. 

  • Rachael - who was Rachael? The character of Rachael from the scifi classic Blade Runner has been a point of controversy for a while. In a world where 'replicants', artificial humans, are created with implanted memories begin to think and feel like they are human, Rachael knows that she is human, but does having memories really make you human? Rachael was a beautiful, mysterious, marvel of modern technology in the style of a 1940's femme fatale but she was so much more than that. 

  • Trinity - don't tell me that in 1999 you didn't go apeshit for The Matrix? You bough a vinyl coat and started doubting you reality and tried to download awesome kung-fu moves from the internet. You didn't? Well... neither did I.... Anyway Trinity was the dangerous and lethal crew member of the Nebuchadnezzar and the later love interest of Neo, the savior of the real world. Trinity was a true bad-ass whose slicked back hair and cold as ice expression sent us into lady crushes everywhere.

  • Princess Leia - the queen of scifi, can we be honest? Princess Leia who started off the Star Wars series as a classic damsel in distress (boooring!) and ended up choking a pudding blob monster to death, in a bikini, with her own chains. Her sarcastic humour and taste for bad boys made us love her enough to excuse her incest kiss with her own brother. 

  • Leeloo -  the movie was called The 5th Element and she was literally the 5th element. Do you get it?? Or maybe love was the 5th element... I can't remember because all I can think about is how I can get my hands on one of those Chanel automatic eye make-up do hickeys. Leeloo was the ultimate human and could understand things far beyond the comprehension of contemporary man, all with the vocabulary of a 5 year old and wrapped in toilet paper. Try to watch the 5th Element without saying 'multipass' I dare you. 

  • Zoe Washburne - there's a phrase for women like Zoe, I believe it is "ride or die". Yeah, thats it. Zoe is one of those ride or die girls, she would do anything for her husband, including killing a few bitch ass suckas. Zoe is the one of the members of the crew Serenity and does her fair share of kicking ass. Her husband Wash, pilot of the ship, often needs saving and he relies on his lady love to protect him. 

  • Sarah Connor - admittedly I have never seen a single Terminator movie (yup that's right) and I don't know much about this character. But I was told I had to include her on this list, so here she freaking is. 

  • Kusanagi Makoto - that's Major Kusanagi Mokoto to you.  She is the cyborg of your dreams and if you try to hit on her she will blow your stupid face off. She is the hyper advanced squad leader of Public Security Section 9 and if you are any sort of terrorist jacking your way into someone's brain you better run and hide because there's no coming back from where she's gonna take you. 

  • Storm - imagine having the power to control the power of the Earth. Tornadoes  tsunamis, volcanoes  earthquakes, all yours to manipulate at will. Now imagine havign to be second rate to that flaming loose cannon of cock teasing pussy magic named Jean Grey who at one time or another TRIED TO DESTROY THE UNIVERSE. But that's neither here no there. Storm born Ororo Monroe is one of Charles Xavier's X-men, sometimes the leader,  former leader of the Morlocks, member of the Avengers, and queen of Wakanda. She is a skilled fighter, highly intellectually developed and an accomplished, proven leader. Did I mention she fucking controls the weather? Mess with Storm, say bye bye to you house, your car, and all 8 layers of skin.  

  • Cpt Janeway - the first female captain to be given her own series on Star Trek. Cpt. Kathryn Janeway was shot into a time hole and had to fight her way through 70,000 light years of time. Holy Shit. Can you fathom that? No. No you can't.  

  • Ripley - what is there to say about the ultimate intergalactic alien cunt kicking bad-ass Ripley that hasn't already been said? If you've seen the Alien movies you know that Ripley doesn't take anyone's shit and when everything has gone to shit she's the only one capable of putting those slimy cockroaches in their place. Originally written as a male character, Sigourney Weaver was cast as the main character proving that women are capable of being tough and not needing to be saved by a man. 

  • Paprika - the DC Mini has been invented and your therapist can now travel into your dreams to help you. Awkward. Better get rid of all those filthy sex dreams with your history teacher. Paprika is the alter ego of  Dr. Atsuko Chiba who is a carefree, resourceful foil of Atsuko's uptight flustered personality. When three of the machines are stolen, the chief of the department researching dreams goes inside and  tries to kill himself, Atsuko goes on a mission to find the culprit. Through the subconscious, the ID, the ego, the digital world and our own selfish desires and hopes Atsuko uses Paprika to navigate this world and find the culprit. 

Sunday, April 21, 2013

Sofia Coppola's new movie "Bling Ring"

From October 2008 to August 2009, Rachel Lee, Nick Prugo, Alexis Neirers, Diana Tamayo, Courtney Ames, Johnny Ajar, and Roy Lopez Jr. robbed the homes of several celebrities, resulting in the loss of about $3 million USD in cash and stolen goods. These people (most of whom were young adults and from financially privileged homes) would follow celebrities on twitter, facebook and celebrity gossip blogs to figure out when they would be away from their homes so that they could break into their homes and take their things. Some of the celebrities robbed were Orlando Bloom and Paris Hilton, who was robbed repetitively and had the biggest loss. Motivated by greed, they wanted to possess the items of the celebrities as a way to feel like celebrities themselves; important, cool, and special. Once caught (ironically through Facebook, the method they used to find victims) the members were individually charged with residential burglary, drug and weapons charges. Most of them were convicted of their crimes, after a highly publicized trial that had different celebrities including Orlando Bloom up to testify against them. In a twist of  art imitating life imitating art, one of the criminals, Alexis Neirers, went on to have her own reality tv show with her former Playboy Playmate mother, and became a celebrity in her own right. In another twist of this strange tale, Neirers served her time in jail in a cell next to Lindsay Lohan, one of her victims, who was incarcerated for a different crime. 
This strange story of greed, celebrities, social media and friendship has now been turned in to  movie by famed director Sofia Coppola starring Emma Watson. 

Sofia Coppola, daughter of Francis Ford Coppola, is a talented director famous for her films "Lost in Translation", "The Virgin Suicides, and "Marie Antoinette". To me her films speak to a female market without being patronizing or reductive, viewing the world with a feminine eye and delicate, understated stylistic choices. 
Opening at Cannes film festival in the "Un Certain Regarde" section which is not part of the main Cannes line-up, though still a prestigious section. Her films are often polarizing in the commercial market, often critically acclaimed, but not box office breakers. Hopefully with a popular commercial actress like Emma Watson, making her break out from the Harry Potter franchise people will be curious enough to go see her in this role. 
What do you guy think?
Will you do see it?  

Friday, April 19, 2013

Azealia Bank's new music video "Yung Rapunxel"

If you know me you know I'm obsessed with Azealia Banks. Her crazy fashion sense, dance moves, vulgar raps and love of absurdly long weaves go straight to my heart.
With her breakout hit "212", she burst onto the scene as an indie rap darling, the edgy kid sister of Nicki Minaj, her Solange basically. She followed up that song with hip, tough, beats like "1991" (an obvious nod to her penchant for early 90's raps and looks), Atlantis (bringing the seapunk trends straight from Tumblr) and "Liquorice" (a freak nasty song about the joys of interracial love) that made her just as fascinating as a visual artist. I have to remind myself that this girl doesn't even have a full length album out yet. But here's the first single from her debut album "Broke with Expensive Taste", a song who's title I think is a play on her love of long hair and her "rap punk" sense of style. 
I'm just going to let this video speak for itself. If you are on drugs or heavily medicated I would wait a minute before watching this.

Living with a Mental Disorder

From the film 'Girl, Interrupted'

When I was 13 I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. I was hospitalized and medically treated in a children's ward, for three months. Since 13 I have had six suicide attempts and three additional hospitalizations. My condition has been improving, marginally since 21 despite not being medicated, but over Christmas break I had a sort of relapse. I was not suicidal but rather listless, depressed, and I refused to eat or get out of bed. My family was so concerned for me that they called a mental health center who came out and saw me immediately. I was put into outpatient therapy and am currently getting back onto a medication treatment.
There were days when I couldn't eat.
There were weeks when all I did was sleep.
There were months when I would harm myself and cry myself to sleep.
It was terrible. Terrible for my family, terrible for my friends, and terrible for my significant others who wanted to help, didn't know how, but were caught up in the windstorm of my emotions.
I failed many classes, lost a couple of jobs, and ruined several relationships because of this. I am filled with regret mostly because I don't even have a clear reason for these things except for the fact that I was sick and unable to make clear decisions.
Since January I have decided to make my life the best that it possibly can be and I wanted to share some of my methods of living with a mental disorder.

"Sorrowing Old Man (At Eternity's Gate)" - Vincent Van Gough
  • Admit it to yourself. Understand that you have a mental disorder, you are not a bad person, you have a condition that affects your emotions and brain chemistry. These things need to be treated, like any other health issue, and if you don't treat it it may continue to worsen. Saying that, having a mental disorder is no excuse for being destructive you are responsible for the management of your condition. A person with a disease cannot expose themselves to other irresponsibly, right? 
  • Seek help. Inpatient treatment is admitting yourself to a hospital if you feel like you are a danger to yourself or others and/or if you cannot continue to function. You will have access to doctors who will asses your condition and put you on the proper path to wellness. If you are suicidal or homicidal I would recommend this option. Outpatient treatment are options like therapy, group therapy, and counseling, this may be once a month, once a week, or several times a week. If you don't feel like you need extensive care you should seek outpatient care. Having a professional help you sort out your issues and ways of dealing with them, is the best way to come to terms with your disorder.

  • Let go of your old life. The way you used to do things is not working, let it go. The way you approached your health, your relationships, your career, your daily life is over and you need to accept the change. You may discover that the things in your life are contributing to your condition and they need to be changed or abandoned. I have panic attacks triggered by a fear of failure or looking stupid, and I have to start learning how to let go of that fear to live a full life. 
  • Research your diagnosis. This is your life, your health and you need to take responsibility for it. Look up what your diagnosis means, what is this disorder what are common symptoms and treatments for it. What are the effects of the medicine that you were given and what is the rate of success. Is cognitive therapy available for it and are you able to start enacting some personal therapy of your own to help you deal with the disorder. 

Designs from a candy store in Barcelona called "Happy Pills"
  • Take the time. Tell people that you are making moves to get well and have patience with yourself. You are not going to get well over night and you need the time, the space and the understanding to get well. If you are living in a toxic environment that is counterproductive to your health, you have to address this. You can't get well on the inside if the outside is also a mess. Taking the time and making the steps to get well may require you to make changes to your environment. Evaluate the people around you and if they are not encouraging you to get well, then you need to move away from them and take care of yourself. 
  • Try some physical therapy. I used to hate when people told me to try exercising. I was like "are you calling me fat?!" but it really does work. Exercise regulates our bodies(to help you sleep), releases dopamine (the feel good chemical), and gives you an excuse to focus on something else in your life. There is scientific evidence that having a healthy body can help us mentally as well, sharpening focus, reasoning, and stress levels. Exercise is sometimes the last thing I want to do but I do it now because its a habit for me. It's me time. 
Hopefully these things have helped you. I can't tell you that I have completely recovered, it is a daily struggle to stay well and reach happiness. My goal in all of this is to live a peaceful life and come to an acceptance of myself. I am on the road right now, there are good days and bad but I am making the decision to keep trying. I hope you keep trying too. 

Here are some resources: - International - for Gay, Lesbian, Trans, Bisexual teens in the US

Wednesday, April 17, 2013

How to Buy a "Personal Massager" jk! Vibrators!

I'm sorry for taking a break from posting, but my life has been a whirlwind lately of exciting personal projects, I haven't been able to write new stuff! And I'd rather take my time and write something good than give you guys crap. So, saying that, I'd like to come back with something truly sensational!
SEX TOYS. Oh yes.

If you live in America and you're up late in the middle of the night, you probably recognize this commercial.

This is the worst commercial to sell vibrators that I think anyone could make. First of all, what woman opens up a package containing her vibrator on the street infront of her other female neighbor? A weirdo. Get away from her before she starts stroking your hair and invites you to that swingers club downtown with her husband. 

Sex toys can be very useful in your everyday life, as stress relievers, as ways to become more in tune with your body and sexual needs, ways to supplement sex when you have a disability, and as ways to connect to your partner sexually.  I wanted to talk about a specific kind of sex toy, my favorite, the vibrator!

Its sure is! If by shoulder you mean genitals! 

The vibrator is an electrical device that can be for external or internal use, some use batteries and some plug into a socket, others have remote controls, can be used with iphone apps, have dual vaginal and clitoral stimulation or work underwater. Whatever you've got going on between your legs there's something for it! 
Let's talk about some different type of vibes and what they are good for. 
Fingo Nubby Finger Vibrator, found here

  • Egg/Pocket Rocket - direct clitoral stimulation, discrete (able to fit in a purse or on a plane, for that girl on the go!), can be used on other erogenous zones like nipples and anus, are made out of hard plastic (for example the egg), metal, to look like something its not (a tube of lipstick or a mascara wand for example), or silicone with nubs on it for added pleasure. 
Power Bullet Mini Vibrator, found here
Studio Collection Lipstick Vibrator, found here

  • Dildo - used for internal stimulation, looks totally somewhat like a dick kinda, can be used to get on that g-spot, but be careful of the one's without bases those get lost up in vagaga's the most, and alot are made of silicone to replicate the actual feel of skin.  
The All American Whopper, found here

  • Rabbit (or Dual Stimulators)  - these are used in the vagoo and has an arm for direct clit sensation. So this will probably blow your mind and change the way you feel about men. You may decide you totally aren't into men anymore after experiencing this, just a forewarning. Has a peen shaped dildo vibrator that you fuck yourself with and a smaller finger shaped vibrator that lays on top of your clit. Another feature that some have is the rotating beads that are built inside of them, these move the dildo around inside of you for another level of mind blowing pleasure. A real penis may not be enough for you after this. 
16 Function Super Rabbit Vibrator, found here
  • Anal Vibrators - these are for your butt. They are often shaped like butt plugs but with a remote or built in dial. These are great for men too for direct prostate stimulation (oh you thought I forgot about the men huh?). Put one of these inside of him as he is fucking you or receiving oral sex and he's going to be cumming all over the place. 
Clear Jelly Butt Plug 

  • "Traditional Vibrators" - these are the no muss, no fuss vibes and they are pretty straight forward. Usually made out of hard plastic, with a dial turn on the bottom, they have a straight shape and go right up in your business. If you don't want to go crazy with clit hungry rabbits, realistic dong action or buttfun you could try one of these, and just get the job done. And by job, I mean all kinds of crazy orgasms. 
Candy Cane Waterproof Vibrator, found here

There are all sorts of other vibrators out there, wands, butterflies, double penetration, vibrating panties, all kinds! The ones I listed are good to get you started. Depending on what you are looking for you can find what you want out of a vibrator. 
There are some other things I should note; get a big pack of batteries (it sucks to run out in the middle of a good climax), buy sex toy cleaner, find a safe place to put it, and don't abuse it. Treat your toy well, it will do the same for you.  
Here is a link about the types of materials to be mindful of when you buy a sex toy. Since there is no regulation in America about the types of materials sex toys can be made out of, you need to be careful before putting anything in your body.    
If you don't have a sex store near you, as many don't, there are some really excellent online sex stores to order from, Babeland, Adam and Eve, GoodVibes, and Eden's Fantasy. Most of them have discrete packaging and billing processes and a helpful customer service center. 
Here is how I spent my last post-Valentine's Day day. 

Right now I own a vibrator from the company Evolved, it's a waterproof, 3 speed, "slender" butterfly (hot damn!). It's a little thick for my taste but the head rotates and the material is very soft. The butterfly is so strong that I usually only go up one speed, the sensations are very good and I often use it externally just on my clity-clit. It is crazy loud though, but has a nice handle on it. 
I'd recommend it highly, because it's probably the best vibrator I've ever had. 

Enjoy this video by Cyndi Lauper "She Bop" a fun song about the joys of self service.

Well I hope this helped somewhat and you found something interesting about this. Sexuality is not something to be kept in the dark, under the covers! Developing your sexual health is as important as your mental health, intellectual health, or relationships. As I stated, vibrators have so many more uses that just getting off on, have fun and experiment

Monday, April 8, 2013

Being Disabled and Fabulous!

My mother has a disability and for the longest time that I've known her, she has been a disabled woman. But my mother is also one of the most fabulous women that I have in my life and she is an icon to me of a stylish, well dressed woman. Sometimes she is in a wheelchair and sometimes she just needs a strong shoulder to lean on as she walks but she is incredibly able. Today I write in honor of her.

My mom and I on Thanksgiving, 2011

I was on tumblr recently and ran across a girl named Jillian Mercado, who had her wheelchair stolen and was looking for help funding a new one. I clicked further on her links, finding her blog, instagram, and twitter. I was really impressed by this fashion blogger who despite of being wheelchair bound is making many connections and progressions in the fashion industry. 

This got me thinking about another one of my favorite able-minded tumblr icons, Viktoria Modesta. Who, if you don't know, is a flaw-free model who in 2007 had a voluntary amputation of her leg after suffering from an accident at birth that left her with severe complications. She is known for using her amputated leg as a fashion plate, adorning her leg in swarovski crystals, posing in Bizarre magazine like some sort of futuristic android pin-up!

Unfortunately many women who have wheelchairs or crutches or prosthetic limbs, do not feel as though they can be fashionable. On a recent episode of the American TV show "What Not to Wear" a woman who used crutches said that her crutches make stand out anyway, when all she wanted to do was fit in. But what is the use of that! You have a disability but that disability says nothing about you, your personality, your taste or your style. No one should try to blend into the crowd, none the less someone in a wheelchair or crutches. Bedazzzle that bitch! And make the people gag with your glamour! Looking good makes you feel good, able bodied or not, everyone wants to look and feel their best right?

Listen to Raja

I have some advice for remaining fabulous while being physically impaired. 
If you are in a wheelchair, most attention usually goes to the top half of the body because that's where your face is and its close to eye level so give that lots of attention. Wear colours and bold prints, pick something bold to wear like a statement necklace or earrings. If you have a condition that affects the size of your legs try to balance it out with your top. If your legs are small, wear wide legged jeans that are tailored and tapered to fit you. If you have a wide upper body, wear slimmer jeans or dress that gives you the appearance of a slimmer lower body, avoid triangle tops, padded shoulders or puffy sleeves. 

Don't forget shoes! Comfort is always important but so is a nice sole! If you need comfortable, orthopedic shoes go with a nice flat or mule. I found a website called Healthy Feet Store that has some nice options for women and men. 
If you are on crutches find clothes that fit your body and give you nice stretch, you don't want anything impeding you or dragging on the floor. A fitted blazer, skinny jeans, leggings, a romper, an A-line skirt, a skater dress, these things are all outfits that are comfortable to move in and don't require a lot of maintenance. 

If you have a prosthetic limb, don't hide it, flaunt it! There are a number of women I know who have had their legs/arms tattooed and wear them around with high heels and short skirts. Look at Viktoria who uses her leg as a way to set her apart from all the other pretty faces and use that as an example.

Which of these Real Housewives has a prosthetic leg? Who cares!